Post by Brielle Kroner on Jan 16, 2018 18:32:59 GMT
Welcome back everyone So, yes, I changed my name...I've been going by my middle name, so consider this a reintroduction. Sorry for the confusion.
Here’s Why Aziz Ansari’s Behaviour Matters
Because the line between misconduct and actual
sex is evidently too thin to be seen. Men think women are a
code to unlock, a game of minesweeper --
if they move their hands slowly enough over our bodies,
maybe we won’t remove them. Game on.
If men are kind enough, maybe we’ll be more agreeable.
If they’ve at least given us time to say no, they’re in the clear.
“Everything did seem ok to me...” Of course it did. Your body doesn’t remember.
A condescending pat on the bum and a pussy-grab are, experientially,
very different, but it’s amazing the kind of things a person can get used to.
When that man seemed so shy about asking me to
put it in my mouth, I almost forgot that I didn’t want to, and
when my roommate stopped him and asked for him if I wanted
him to fuck me, I didn’t say no. In fact, I said yes, because I was
afraid of what would happen if I didn’t, appreciating her intervention and
forgetting she was the one who started this encounter in the first place.
“so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned.”
All you had to do was have enough social skills to understand
that “Maybe not now” means “No.” You didn’t have to be a mindreader.
We still turn to the law rather than the culture around sex, exposing
Weinstein and exclaiming #MeToo like we’re synchronized metronomes.
Yet there's a deeper layer of behavior that men claim they literally don’t even know is wrong.
www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jan/15/aziz-ansari-behaviour-matters-allegations-date-young-woman-coercion-sexual-behaviour
Here’s Why Aziz Ansari’s Behaviour Matters
Because the line between misconduct and actual
sex is evidently too thin to be seen. Men think women are a
code to unlock, a game of minesweeper --
if they move their hands slowly enough over our bodies,
maybe we won’t remove them. Game on.
If men are kind enough, maybe we’ll be more agreeable.
If they’ve at least given us time to say no, they’re in the clear.
“Everything did seem ok to me...” Of course it did. Your body doesn’t remember.
A condescending pat on the bum and a pussy-grab are, experientially,
very different, but it’s amazing the kind of things a person can get used to.
When that man seemed so shy about asking me to
put it in my mouth, I almost forgot that I didn’t want to, and
when my roommate stopped him and asked for him if I wanted
him to fuck me, I didn’t say no. In fact, I said yes, because I was
afraid of what would happen if I didn’t, appreciating her intervention and
forgetting she was the one who started this encounter in the first place.
“so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned.”
All you had to do was have enough social skills to understand
that “Maybe not now” means “No.” You didn’t have to be a mindreader.
We still turn to the law rather than the culture around sex, exposing
Weinstein and exclaiming #MeToo like we’re synchronized metronomes.
Yet there's a deeper layer of behavior that men claim they literally don’t even know is wrong.
www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jan/15/aziz-ansari-behaviour-matters-allegations-date-young-woman-coercion-sexual-behaviour